At one and four years of age both my kids are already pretty experienced airplane fliers. They both had passports before they were 2 months old. Just this past year alone we have taken 4 trips by air with them (that’s 8 flights total). I remember how nervous I was the first time we flew with a baby – when my first daughter was 3months old. I thought of all the horror stories of how terrible it is to have kids screaming on flights and how terrible the other passengers and flight crew are to the parents of these kids. I thought of all the times I’ve heard a friend gripe about parents who “aren’t doing anything” to control their child in the airport or on the plane. I was a nervous wreck that first flight, but now four years and countless flights later I am much more confident that my kids can handle the flight and that if for some reason they cannot, I will be able to handle the situation.
Also check out Flying With Kids Part Two: On The Plane
When flying internationally, we usually have to get to the airport 2-3 hours before our flight. Going through check in and security with kids and everything that comes with it – stroller, diaper bag, snacks – can be stressful. Not to mention occasional delays and missed bedtimes. It’s as important to have a plan for what to do at the airport as it is for the rest of the trip. So Part One of my Flying with kids tips is all about how to pass the time at the airport.
- Talk about it: This one is more relevant when your child is no longer a baby. As Daniel Tiger puts it “when we do something new, lets talk about what we’ll do”. Before we head to the airport we talk about what we will do once we get there. We talk about how we need to check in and hand over our bags and go through security. We agree to the rules – stay close, hold hands, don’t yell, don’t run, wait patiently in line, etc – that we will follow until we’re through security. We talk about how once we’re past security, there will be more freedom and we can go shopping, we can look for a kids play area or get a snack, look at airplanes, etc. Of course this conversation isn’t enough to magically make your child behave but it does help when your kid knows what to expect and what is expected of them. We go over the expectations one more time before walking into the airport and into the check in line. Once we’re in the various lineups a reminder is usually enough. Show your kid where security is, show them where you will go after you’re done so they have something tangible to look forward to, “once we’re through these doors, you can let go of my hand” for example.
- Food: If your kid is anything like mine then they love to “go to a restaurant”. The grass is always greener and the food is always better somewhere else. Who needs the snacks mommy brought when there are Starbucks muffins to be had? I usually do bring plenty of snacks with us – a few times we even brought actual Starbucks muffins! – but we always end up buying food or snacks at the airport. Unless you’re bringing a full meal for four with you (and who has time for that?) when you have a 6 hour flight and a 2 hour wait at the airport, you will need to buy food at some point. After a while both Husband and I realized that we actually prefer to buy food at the airport rather than on the plane. There are more options and better meals. Plus it kills the time. And depending on what you buy, you can bring leftovers on the plane with you – I once brought half a pizza on the flight because my daughter didn’t want to eat it then. We usually pick a spot in the airport where the kid (or kids) can run around a little bit without disrupting other people and then take turns going to buy food or drinks.
- Baby/child carrier: A carrier is a must for the airport. We have a single stroller that my daughter can stand on to ride on the back (with a three year age difference we didn’t need a double) but sometimes it’s just easier to have a spot for her to settle down in. It’s easy to put baby in the carrier and vacate the stroller. Especially when we’re hanging out at the airport way past her bedtime. Sometimes I just like to put our carry-on bags in the stroller and wear the baby on me instead of schlepping a bunch of bags around. Lastly, when it’s time to board the plane, you’ll need to fold your stroller and leave it at the gate. Putting baby in a carrier leaves your hands free for your stuff. I usually bring a couple of carriers with me – a structured (my ergo) and a sling. The sling is not as convenient for long periods but it’s much faster to get baby in an out of so having the option of speed or long-term comfort is great (plus the sling barely takes up any space at all)
- Apply for Nexus/Global Entry: If you cross the border between Canada and the USA fairly regularly, even if it’s just once a year, it’s totally worth it to get this. The lineup at airport security is usually much shorter and goes by quicker. You don’t have to take your shoes off! It’s even more worth it if you cross the border by car, since there are some bridges that are nexus only.
We have definitely had our hairy moments and unpleasant tantrums in airports. I will be the first to admit that sometimes our kid annoyed the people around us. Sometimes the people around annoyed us and our kid (I’m looking at you jerks who are so impatient at security that they feel the need to butt in between our family to shove their backpack or whatever other carry-on crap they have onto the belt when they deem we’re moving too slow. I bet these asshats are also the ones who complain about kids at the airport. Maybe you should treat everyone with respect, regardless of their age or family situation. Rant over). Sometimes it wasn’t even our kid having the temper tantrum (oops).
The important thing is for you, the parents, to model staying collected and patient. Flying can be stressful. As you might have guessed, going through security especially stresses me out. I don’t like to stand in line or have a detached uniformed guard bark orders at me or argue with airline staff about why my husband and I should be seated together. But you need to be able to put that stress aside for the sake of your kids. Your kid will ask 500 million questions. Your kid will want to go places you’re not interested in. Your kid will insist that they don’t need to go potty before getting on the plane. Remind yourself that this is all normal kid behaviour. They are not doing it to you. Answer their questions. Find ways to keep them entertained (what kid doesn’t like looking at planes?) and try not to project your stress onto them. The more they sense you being stressed, the more they will misbehave. The last thing you want is for you and your kid to be frustrated before you even get on that cramped airplane.
And don’t forget to read Flying with kids – Part Two: On the plane
I’d love to hear your thoughts! Leave a comment bellow and tell me what parenting tips and hacks work for you and your kiddos at the airport.