I have great news! Remember the interview I mentioned at the end of my becoming a SAHM post? It went well and I got a job offer! After more than three years as a stay at home mom I am now preparing to go back to work full time. [Read more…]
Lulu started school a couple weeks ago (two weeks before labour day for some reason, because California is crazy like that). I feel like I blinked and poof, I have a school-aged child! She suddenly seems so grown up too! Here are the five lessons from the first two weeks of having a kindergartener:
Becoming a stay at home mom was never my plan. Husband and I briefly discussed it after our first child was born and just as quickly dismissed the idea. Staying at home was not for me. I grew up in a household where my grandmother and my mother worked full time their whole life and that was the norm. But life had other plans.
I worked hard to earn my degree and career and I wasn’t ready to give that up when we started a family. Parenting is the most amazing rollercoaster experience and I wouldn’t give it up for the world. But I also get a lot of satisfaction and fulfillment from being good at my job, checking off goals and collaborating on projects with people taller than 3 feet tall.
This week marks the three year anniversary – our expativersary – since we joined the ranks of Canadian expats in USA and moved to Silicon Valley, California. With the new adventure and our new circumstances, I became a Canadian expat and a suburban stay at home mom, at least temporarily. Which is an adventure on its own. This is Part 1 of my origin story – becoming a Canadian expat in California.
Last summer we got out to travel through some of California and get to know our current home a little better. Monterey and Carmel are only a couple hours away from Silicon Valley and it took us two years to finally go exploring there. Isn’t it always the case though, the closer you are to something the less you go there.
Clearly this visit was long overdue and I’m happy we finally made the time to go. We spent a total of four days wandering through Monterey county with our kids, a preschooler and one year old. Some things were great, others not so much. Here’s how we spent four amazing days in Monterey and Carmel with kids:
When Booboo was almost 18mo she started attending a home-based daycare a couple of days per week. I am a stay at home mom but I still choose to send my kids to daycare at least part time. I know that this is not always the popular choice but I find it necessary for my own sanity. When I was dealing with PPD, one of the most helpful things I could do was get some regular kid-free time that I could depend on and look forward to. Lulu, who is in preschool now, attended daycares when I was working and after I became a SAHM and this worked well for us. In sending Booboo to daycare I discovered that not only was it helpful for me and my mental health but that it was also great for our family overall. Booboo has a blast at her daycare and the sisters having some time apart gives them a chance to miss each other. It was an unexpected side effect that sending my toddler to daycare helps with sibling rivalry.